When a person decides to start a blog after having just been a lurker of a few blogs, they really don't know the etiquette. So if, like a fool, they dive into the blogging world head first: writing posts, becoming a follower and commenting, they are bound to make a faux pas or two.
What's worse than a faux pas though, is when a blogger is oblivious to their missteps. When they discover their inappropriate behavior they are embarrassed; they are ashamed.
What is a blogger to do in this situation? Should they ignore their horrible mistake? Should they shut down their blog and delete their reader account?
Maybe what a newbie blogger should do is write a blog post about it?
So here's what I did/do aka my faux pas.
I'm a commenter. I like people to know that someone is reading what they wrote. I also appreciate posts that are interesting or funny and want to share my appreciation. I worry that I annoy, but I really like reading what people comment on my blog. I'm also a follower. I love my google reader and my new nifty next button (thanks whoever gave me that tip). I have gotten so many good ideas and so much inspiration and comfort from knowing that other people struggle at times just like I do. I even reconnected with an old friend.
So the fact is that my worry of annoyance, should have clued me in. I received an email this week from someone whose blog I really enjoyed. She wrote cute stories about her daughter, posted pictures of her daughter's adorable room and some awesome maternity photos of herself and wrote about her frustration with winter and even did a funny and interesting meme.
So what did I do?
I commented. A couple of days later, when there was a new post, I commented again. And then a few days later, new post-new comment.
And then the dreaded email, with the simple question, "how did you find my blog?" Because her name was not anywhere on her blog I wasn't sure which blog was her, so I replied to her email asking what it was and asking if I had left an offending comment and if so I apologized. Her response was simply her blog's url; nothing more, nothing less.
So I checked out my comments, trying to figure out why she had asked and why her question was so abrupt. It wasn't "thanks for visiting - how'd you find my blog?" It was "how'd you find my blog?"
And that's when I discovered my faux pas. The cute story about what her daughter said - I was the only commenter. The great pictures of her daughter's adorable room - I was the only commenter. Two other posts - yep, just me again.
"I'M A STALKER," I thought. I sent her an email explaining that I wasn't a stalker, that I just really liked her blog and enjoyed her posts and apologized.
Her response.....nothing. No response...no email back.
So what do I do? Stop commenting? Delete my reader account? Go back to fake knitting at night while the hubs has remote control...